Monday, June 17, 2013

Depression Demands Living by Faith, Not by Sight

http://www.christianpost.com/news/christian-counselor-depression-demands-living-by-faith-not-by-sight-93701/

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    (Photo: Courtesy of Christian Counseling & Education Foundation)
    Dr. Edward Welch, counselor and faculty member at Christian Counseling & Education Foundation, and author of the book, "Depression: Looking Up from the Stubborn Darkness."

By Melissa Barnhart , CP Reporter
April 11, 2013|12:01 pm

Edward Welch, a licensed neuropsychologist and faculty member at the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation in Philadelphia, Pa., provides counseling that is based on Scripture to help patients who are suffering from depression.


For people who've never suffered from depression, Welch describes it as being a chronic physical pain and an eternal presence that seems as though it's never going to change.

Welch told The Christian Post that the experience of depression is the absence of all things that are good. "Think of all of the blessings from the Lord: weather, rain, food and fellowship," he said. "The absence of anything good would be hell; and people use metaphors for hell to describe depression."

Although the word depression isn't found in Scripture, "the word suffering is. Depression is suffering," said Welch, whose book, Depression: Looking Up From the Stubborn Darknessprovides information for those who seek to understand depression from a Christian perspective.   

Understanding the correlation between depression and suffering gives people access to Scripture that effectively works in their lives when they read, hear and speak the Lord's word. A search for the word suffering in the Bible "keys us into all kinds of Scripture," said Welch, who tells Christians to remember God's promise to believers: "God said, 'I'll never leave you;' and 'Your father is pleased to give you the keys to the Kingdom.'"

Welch encourages the people he counsels to speak to God, and "if the pain is too strong, and there are no words, to read from the book of Psalms."

He suggests that they "speak the hard things from our hearts to the Lord." And when people are unable to do so on their own, Welch said he speaks words to the Lord on their behalf.

When people listen to those who share their struggles with depression, they will eventually hear that anxieties come up. "Life is churned up by ever-present anxieties," said Welch, who has been a counselor for more than 30 years and has written extensively on the topics of depression, fear and addictions.

People who live with a loved one that has depression should "seek to jettison anything that can intensify depression: guilt, shame, regrets, works righteousness, old broken relationships, mythologies about people, God, ourselves, and who we are," he said. People who struggle with depression often have a "pervasive sense of guilt and shame."

"Depression demands another way to live (Hebrews 11:1)," the neuropsychologist continued. "Even though I've been a believer for decades, I still live by how I feel. Depressed people encounter feelings and say, 'why bother, there's nothing good.'" These feelings "demand a radical call to live by faith, rather than by sight. When a depressed person lives by sight, everything is dark."

Because people who struggle with depression feel a pronounced absence of all good things, it can be difficult to communicate with them and provide words of encouragement.

"Seek to love wisely," advised Welch, who said that it's important for families to "enlarge the circle of people" who can support the person who's suffering from depression, by including "other people who pray, love and have wisdom." He emphasized that this includes counselors and psychiatrists, who are partners with families.

Welch added that it's important to "greet, pray, touch and communicate," with loved ones who are living with depression; and to support them and ask questions, without overreacting in anger or hovering, which "tends to make things worse, rather than better."

The depressed person might not know what they want, "but they do know what they don't want," said Welch, who emphasized that family members shouldn't be afraid to ask questions for fear of provoking, as long as they are asked in a loving manner. "Try to maintain normal and good relationships ... talk about things."

Key signs to watch out for with depression is to see if the loved one is "withdrawing from the things they enjoy: people, hobbies and music, for example," he said. "When families see withdrawal, or a movement toward darkness, such as dark movies, dark music, dark people … their loved one might not be falling into darkness, but they are giving words to the things inside them."

"Intense depression waxes and wanes," Welch said. "The physical body can't take extremes of depression for very long." He added that when the depression lifts, "it's as if they see color."

He pointed out that "Winston Churchill suffered from depression and often believed that he could never do anything right, when he was doing a lot of things right." Other people he named as having suffered from depression include: Pablo Picasso, Abraham Lincoln, preacher Charles Spurgeon, missionary David Brainard, and Bible translator J. B. Phillips.

Speaking about the recent suicide of Matthew Warren, who suffered from depression and mental illness, Welch said that his parents, Pastor Rick Warren and his wife, Kay, did everything right. He added that Matthew would've had access to the most skilled people in the body of Christ, and he believes that they had enlarged their circle to help their son.

According to Welch, suicide is unpredictable, and many people observe that there seems to be an improvement in the person, and they seem to be doing better, before they commit suicide. However, he noted that seeing a loved one get better "doesn't mean it's a harbinger of suicide."

"The reality is that suicide is impossible to predict," he said.

Thoughtful people tell themselves that there were warning signs beforehand that they should've seen. Welch described it as being like a football coach who's looking back at the tape from a game. "Part of the tragedy about suicide is that by looking back, they see signs, but in reality, they wouldn't have seen it."

Read more at http://www.christianpost.com/news/christian-counselor-depression-demands-living-by-faith-not-by-sight-93701/#48RiVP00QyYTLVlg.99 

Saturday, October 20, 2012

Young adults at greater risk of depression

http://www.straitstimes.com/breaking-news/singapore/story/young-adults-greater-risk-depression-20121001


When it comes to depression, it matters whether you are a man or woman, young or old. At least, this is what a first-of-its-kind study by the Institute of Mental Health (IMH) suggests.
A look at the symptoms reported by patients who visited general practitioners (GPs) for other illnesses found that young adults appear at greater risk of the ailment. They were more affected by many problems associated with depression: from weight loss to sadness and low self-esteem.
Younger people also appeared harder hit by fluctuating appetites, and showed a greater inability to experience pleasure from activities that are usually enjoyable, such as exercise and hobbies.
In contrast, those aged above 35 had more trouble than their younger counterparts in only one area - sleeping during the night.

Sunday, October 9, 2011

How to Identify and Deal With Depression by Yang Su-Yin

http://sg.news.yahoo.com/blogs/fit-to-post-health/identify-deal-depression-032716172.html

Does the following sound familiar to you?
•"I've lost my appetite."
•"I can't sleep."
•" I don't know why I feel like crying all the time."
•"I've lost interest"
•"I don't feel like doing anything."
•"Life is meaningless, what's there to live for?"

Such thoughts may be suggestive of depression. Depression rarely creeps up on you without reason. Often, depression is a result of some imbalance in life, a signal that there are areas in your life that need to be managed and not ignored.

If you have been constantly feeling low and experiencing some or all of the symptoms above, it is appropriate to seek professional medical help. This is especially so if thoughts of death or suicide are present. Do not self-diagnose or self-manage without speaking to your doctor first. Following your doctor's consult, below are some self-management tips that you can try at home.

Don't be embarrassed if you need to seek help for your depression. There are professionals out there that can give you support to start living a better life. Remember you are worth it!

Set a routine for yourself and include some basic level of activity throughout the day. This is important to give your life a daily purpose.
Create a daily motto for yourself. This will be your day's inspiration especially when feeling down. Some examples would be: "Life's too short to worry about everything", "Let loose and live", and "It is another beautiful day".

Choose to engage in an activity that you would normally enjoy even if you don't want to do it. This is to prevent you from losing sense of yourself and thus reducing your activity level to a minimal.

Try a new activity that you can do with a group of friends or if you prefer, by yourself. Cultivate new interests that will keep you going.
Rally social support. It is important to reach out to your family and friends around you who can walk you through this rough patch. Turning them away will cause you more harm than good. You need not walk this journey alone.

Don't avoid the feeling of depression. The harder you try to suppress or control depression, the more depressed you might get. Avoidance is not the way but acknowledgement and acceptance will be more helpful to see you through.

Sufficient rest and regular meals are also needed to help with your recovery. Without enough rest and a proper diet; you will not have the energy and the mental capacity to fight this battle.

Use positive self-talk. Believe that your life is worth it and you are worthy as a person no matter what your mind tells you.

Re-look, re-think and re-set your life's goals. Dream again to find that purpose and meaning in your life that will motivate you to live a more fulfilled life.

Be thankful and contented with what you have in life.
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The writer is a senior pyschologist at the Department of Psychological Services and Pain Management Clinic at Tan Tock Seng Hospital.

http://www.healthymind.sg/

http://www.healthymind.sg
"According to a news report of Channel NewsAsia on 8 October 2006, Singapore has as many as 350,000 people suffering from some form of mental illness.

The most common ones are anxiety disorder and depression, and the numbers of sufferers are likely to go up with rapid changes and pressures in society."

Thursday, September 8, 2011

Treatments of Depression

In my opinion, there're really only 3 methods of treating Depression:

1) Medication
2) Therapy, which includes counselling
3) Spiritual

All these have its merits and effectiveness. You may consider any of its combinations, though some may find relief using only 1 method.

The 1st method depends solely on medications, which alters the mood and chemicals in your brain, and relaxes your body, or drowse you to sleep (or sleep better and longer). This method might not work if you're chronically a pessimist and if forgiveness or guilt/shame is the core issue. Basically, this method will not work for any non-physical related issue, e.g. financial, gambling, marital woes, etc. Well, unless you just want to sleep away your problems, literally! Generally, medications such as anti-depressants and methods such as ECT (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electroconvulsive_therapy) have proven to be very effective, especially for severe depression.

The 2nd method depends solely on others (primarily the therapist or counsellor), yourself and your support group (usually your close friends or family members). This method is largely dependent on the therapist's skill and method (there are many therapy methods). This method might also not be as effective if you have difficulties opening yourself up, or if you find it hard to trust others. This method also might not be recommended for severe mental conditions. This method could be most suitable especially if you're a chronic worrier or pessimist, or if forgiveness, guilt, shame is a core issue, or if you need help in social skills. You'll be surprised that sometimes, all you need is a listening ear and undivided attention. It is crucial that you have good family/friends support. Just to add, never believe in hypnotherapy or anything that deals with your sub-conscious!

The 3rd method is God-dependent. It is most suitable for people who have lack of family/friends support, are shame/guilt concious, suicidal, have chronic addictions or basically any chronic mental conditions that are deemed untreatable by doctors. It is not dependent on therapist or medications. It works best for people with faith as small as a mustard seed, and with all ounce of hope and trust placed on the supreme higher being. It is obviously not suitable for people who doesn't believe in any god. Seeking spiritual treatment is not akin to buying magic stones or drinking holy water. Many depressed patients are worse off financially and emotionally after seeking unorthodox spiritual method. Try this 3rd method as a last resort if you haven't! That's nothing to lose anyway.

As for me, I believe in Jesus, and He has helped me out of depression. What about you?

Loneliness and Depression

I am no expert in the study of loneliness. I studied depression during my course of studies, but not loneliness. Yet, it is to my belief that there is a strong correlation between loneliness and depression, just as self-esteem and depression.

Bible wrote that there is a good side to being alone. Being alone can be an opportunity to retreat, rest, pray and talk with God, just as Jesus did so often alone and away from His disciples. Most of us would have realised by now that the issue lies not with being alone, but the feeling of being lonely.

"It is not good that man should be alone" (Gen. 2:18) I've learnt that when the God says that something is good, it's REALLY good. But when the bible says that "It is not good", it is really NOT good. God said that it is not good for Adam to be alone, and so abracadabra, He created Eve, and made her a helper to Adam. So now Adam is no longer alone. And since being alone is never an issue, but being lonely is, Eve must have solved the "being lonely" issue. Because God was pleased and saw that everything He created was good.

I believe that Adam and Eve shared a very close and pure intimate relationship, one that is found and meant to be shared only in a marriage. They were connected soul-to-soul, heart-to-heart, body-to-body. Thus there was no room for loneliness to creep in. Building on this understanding, can I safely assume then that the key to not being lonely is for a man to have his "Eve", and a woman to have his "Adam"? Theoretically, the answer is Yes. Practically, the answer is No...

You see, when Adam disobeyed God and was tempted by the Devil (serpent), sin crept in. And with sin comes all kinds of hurt and disappointments resulting from unfaithfulness, betrayal, lies, etc. Therefore it is not uncommon these days to find married couples feeling lonely and unsatisfied. Why would that be so if they were the Adam and Eve that God has intended in the first place? If married couples can feel lonely, what more unmarried couples?

So can we say then that the key is not about being married or unmarried, but rather do we have a soul-mate and confidant whom we can trust fully and share our deepest innermost thoughts to? Theoretically, the answer is Yes. Practically, the answer is No. For Isaiah 53:6 says, "We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to his own way; and the LORD has laid on him the iniquity of us all." In short, all man have sinned. Meaning all men will lie, all men are selfish, all men have ulterior motives.

If you believe in the bible, you will see that there is no perfect person on earth except Jesus. As such, we are all prone to loneliness, since all men have sinned. If loneliness has a strong correlation to depression, then chances are our loneliness might lead to depression.

I'm not saying that all married couples will be lonely, nor am I saying that all unmarried singles are destined to be lonely. What I'm saying is - until we find that soul mate or confidant whom we can totally trust and rely upon, there is always a void which we can never fill. That void is loneliness. So if you have found that soul mate of yours, and suppose he/she maintains that trust for as long as you live, then congrats, you will never be lonely.

You know what I'm going to write next, don't you? Yes, you've guessed it - it has become almost a cliche to say that the void can be filled by God. But guess what - I'm still lonely. And don't you? Yet all I can only do is to keep praying and tell God how lonely I am (and believing that He alone answers prayers). At times when loneliness becomes overbearing, I do cry to Him. I know I can confide in Him, I know He listens, and that He will never betray nor leave me. I know that He truly loves me. When I have no one to talk to, I can turn to Him. I know I can trust Him entirely with my secrets and deepest thoughts. He said that He is always besides me (though invisible). Sometimes when words alone aren't enough to be express my emotions, tears could. Bible wrote in Psalm 56:8, "You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book."

Whatever, still we all yearn to have a physical soul mate, other than God, don't we? Till then, we can only trust in what Psalm 37:4 says, "Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart."

It is not good to live alone, and to die alone. I pray for all lonely and depressed people out there, that God can be a comfort to them, and that His presence be so strong within them that it dispels all loneliness. Yet beyond that, for God to designate an Eve to every Adam, and an Adam to every Eve.

Amen!

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

耶和华靠近伤心的人 - 赞美之泉



詩 篇 34:18
耶 和 華 靠 近 傷 心 的 人 , 拯 救 靈 性 痛 悔 的 人 。

禱吿 - Stream of Praise 赞美之泉



Jesus said, “If you ask anything in my name, I will do it.” John 14:14

Jesus also said in Matthew 21:22, “And everything you shall ask in prayer, believing, you shall receive.”

上帝聽禱告



God promises us that
"A bruised reed he will not break,
and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out" (Mat 12:20)

He also says,
"The LORD is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit." (Psalm 34:18)

Beautiful Christian Song by Sammi Cheng

Testimony from Sammi Cheng



Testimony (from http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NhR6UiyOiE8 clip, time 2:16 onwards):

Many of us conform to this world's values and principles. Majority lacked the courage to become who and what we really are and live life to the fullest.

Including myself. My name is Sammi Cheng, a singer and actress. I'm 35 this year. I have some small accomplishments to date. Yet I've never truly being myself, the real me. I'm used to living in a set of principles guided by man. I used to think that the greater the accomplishments I have, the greater my self-worth and value would become. However, the more material wealth and worldly success I possess, the emptier I felt. The heart...it's empty. I've tried to fill it up with more successes and possessions, but the void remained, to the extend that it felt scary.

Finally, I tried to put a stop to these bottomless and endless pursuits. I put down this career which I've painstakingly built up over the years. I let go of my successes. I wish to see what will become of me without them...

God spent approx. 1000 days to put me to some serious self-reflection and soul-searching. Finally, I saw the true veil of money and success. These may satisfy my worldly wants, but it can never satisfy my deepest desire.

Life itself needs to have a higher calling and purpose. Through God's words, I found my sense of direction and anchor.

"Jesus came to serve, and not to be served." In the days to come, I shall live out my special calling. I do not know how God is going to direct my life's script, but what I do know is that He will carry me through every step of my life.

Such peace and assurance from God, is something that money can never buy.

In retrospect, over the past 1000 days of self-reflection, God has indeed "fixed" me, through much pain and tears. He allowed such trials to come my way, so that I may find back my "heart". My heart has since reunite with God, I shall not fear, nor shall I be timid anymore. I want to live out the real me.

To live life according to my higher calling, and to not conform to this world...this is my promise to God.

- Sammi Cheng
(translation by Stephen Lim)

Sammi battled depression for three years

http://www.divaasia.com/article/8306

Back in 2005, an overworked and emotionally drained Sammi was reportedly hit by a bout of severe depression.

According to Apple Daily Taiwan, she buckled under immense pressure while on the set of the film Everlasting Regret, occasionally "tearing up scripts" and "knocking her head on walls".

At one point, it was said that she even "locked herself in her room for 96 consecutive hours".

Upon her comeback in late 2008, she opened up about her condition on a Hong Kong radio programme, admitting that she has "finally walked out of depression after battling it for three years".

"Actually, I'm glad I went through it. In life, you need to go through lows in order to achieve more," she said. "Things have been going too smoothly for me before that."

Bust The Myth About Depression

"Mental illness is nothing to be ashamed of, but stigma and bias shame us all." ~ Bill Clinton

http://www.youthinmind.sg/bust-the-myth/mental-health

DepressionSymptoms.net

All you ever need to know about Depression:
http://depressionsymptoms.net

Postpartum Depression...and Brooke Shields

http://depressionsymptoms.net/brooke-shields/

"In the eyes of others, she seemed to have it all: a happy marriage, ageless beauty, world fame, fortune, and by age 38, a beautiful baby girl. There was one detail, however, unknown to outsiders: Brooke Shields’s struggle with depression."

"Brooke Shields’s struggle with depression was boggled with symptoms of shame, helplessness, despair, and reclusiveness."

"Worst of all were the disturbing visions that haunted Brooke. She kept visualizing her infant daughter flying through the air until hitting a wall and sliding down it. Although she did not visualize herself committing this violent act against Rowan, the visions were still disturbing to her."

"Unable to bear postpartum depression any further, Brooke sought treatment for her disorder. She decided to take an antidepressant drug called Paxil, along with therapy."

"Times have improved for Brooke Shields. She’s no longer struggling with postpartum depression."

Jim Carrey and Other Celebrities Depression Sufferers

http://www.neatorama.com/2009/01/26/5-celebrities-with-depression/

"While he used to take Prozac to help stabilize his mood, he now focuses on treatment through spirituality and clean living." - on Jim Carrey

"In fact, in her darkest hour, she strongly contemplated suicide while suffering from a massive bout of depression. She missed her ex-husband and worried about finances, that’s when the dark thoughts started coming out" - on J.K. Rowling

"Wilson is clinically depressed and will be throughout his lifetime. He has been battling depression by taking anti-depressants for years, however, breaking up with Kate Hudson pushed him beyond the effects of his medication and made him feel hopeless." - on Owen Wilson

Sammi Cheng

http://news.asiaone.com/News/Latest+News/Showbiz/Story/A1Story20101023-243843.html

"I've matured a lot after recovering from depression. I communicate better with my family now because I've mellowed a lot." - Sammi Cheng

"I used to believe in fate. I used to think that good and bad luck would dominate a person's life. But after embracing Christianity again, my philosophy has changed. Now, I leave everything to God's will." - Sammi Cheng

Meaninglessness Drives MediaCorp Actress Jacelyn Tay to Christ

http://sg.christianpost.com/dbase/culture/1263/9%7C15/1.htm

"A lot of people think that somebody becomes a Christian because he is weak or has problems. In my case I found God when everything was going well. My career was fine. My relationships were fine, but there was still an emptiness in my heart which I didn't understand. I was actually pretty lost when I had everything" - Jacelyn Tay

Hand in Hand

The Vine and the Branches

John 15

1 “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. 2 He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes[a] so that it will be even more fruitful.

5 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. 6 If you do not remain in me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. 7 If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. 8 This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.

Psalm 34:12-14

12 Whoever of you loves life
and desires to see many good days,
13 keep your tongue from evil
and your lips from telling lies.
14 Turn from evil and do good;
seek peace and pursue it.

LOVE

1 Corinthians 13:1-8, 13

1 If I talk with the tongues of men and even of angels, but if I do not love people, then I am only like the sound of a big horn or a loud bell.

2 If I speak words from God, if I can understand all secrets, and know everything, if I can move mountains by believing, but if I do not love people, I am nothing, even though I can do all of these things.

3 If I give away all I have, and if I give my body to be burned, but if I do not love people, I get nothing out of it.

4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous. Love is not proud and does not boast.

5 Love does not do things that are not nice. Love does not just think of itself. Love does not get angry. Love holds no wrong feelings in the heart.

6 Love is not glad when people do wrong things. But it is always glad when they do right.

7 Love forgives everything. Love is always trusting, and always hoping, and never gives up.

8 Love never ends.

13 These three things will remain for ever. They are faith, hope, and love. And love is the greatest of them.

Unbroken promises? Unconditional love? Are there such virtues in our present time?

Malachi 3:6 - “I the LORD do not change. So you, the descendants of Jacob, are not destroyed."

Hebrews 13:8 - "Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever"

Ponder over these verses for a moment. In a world where people can turn against each other in a blink of an eye, promises are broken, infidelity and unfaithfulness rampant, love is but conditional, materials gifts fade and wither, don't we yearn for somebody whose love is true and unconditional, whose gifts are ever-lasting and eternal, whose loyalty and faithfulness do not waver, and whose promises are true and kept, and totally selfless?

In the travel of time across life, we have to admit we do appreciate those qualities, if there's any. Is there such a perfect being? One who is selfless, having an unconditional yet sacrificial love, unchanging in his promises and every uttered word, providing us with all our needs as our father, and as comforting and caring as a mother. One who has not and does not pleasure himself in sin, but yearns for all righteous things. Is there such a man? Hasn't all man curse and lie and yielded to anger and lust and all of worldly temptations? Can anyone claim to be totally pure, sinless, righteous, all-loving and sacrificial?

Yes He was, He is, and He will be. He was a human, yet he is a God, and He exists as a Spirit inside all who believes in Him. He sacrificed Himself for all mankind, as the total redemption (atonement) of sins. The love of such magnitude who can comprehend, let alone compare?

Give Him a chance to let Him into your life. (Psalm 34:8- O taste and see that the LORD is good; How blessed is the man who takes refuge in Him!) He can help you with all your problems or circumstances. (Psalms 46:1 - God is our refuge and stength, a very present help in trouble.)

I pray that this mini sharing of mine will bless your spirit. God is real.

In His love,
Stephen
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Jeremiah 17:9 - The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?

Matthew 9:11-13 - When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?” On hearing this, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”

原來是耶穌

Don't lose hope, don't give up on life yet. We still have Jesus! Even if He's the last hope we have, it's the only hope we will ever need!

To be or not to be? Cold or Hot?

Revelation 3:15-22

15 I know your works, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish that you were cold or hot.
16 So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I am going to vomit you out of My mouth.
17 Because you say, 'I'm rich; I have become wealthy, and need nothing,' and you don't know that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind, and naked,
18 I advise you to buy from Me gold refined in the fire so that you may be rich, and white clothes so that you may be dressed and your shameful nakedness not be exposed, and ointment to spread on your eyes so that you may see.
19 As many as I love, I rebuke and discipline. So be committed and repent.
20 Listen! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and have dinner with him, and he with Me.
21 The victor: I will give him the right to sit with Me on My throne, just as I also won the victory and sat down with My Father on His throne.

22 "Anyone who has an ear should listen to what the Spirit says to the churches."

Another mini sharing topic that has been weighing in my heart for quite a while. These verses are spoken by God/Jesus/His spirit especially to His churches, which obviously include its members. Are you neither cold nor hot? God said clearly that he rather you be either cold or hot, not lukewarm, nonchalant or sitting on the fence in layman terms (or the "heck-care" and "bo-chap" attitude in local context.)

Many "Christians" profess that they are Christians, yet their lives reflect otherwise. We know what accreditation professional bodies mean, don't we? If you're a qualified doctor in Singapore, you must belong to Singapore Medical Council. If you're a qualified nurse, you most probably have to register with Singapore Nurses Association. If you're a psychologist, it's Singapore Psychological Society. What does being a member of these associations means? It basically means that we carry the qualifications and professional ethics of being their members, serving our rightful and professional duties to the society. What does it mean then, to be part of the body of Christ, to belong to a church, to be called His children?

If you're lukewarm in any profession, then you might as well not belong to any association. You're not serving the society according to the terms laid down by the bodies. You could probably just get by with whatever credentials you already have, but please don't bother to join any association. There are many accountants and psychologists who are not registered with their respective boards, and therefore they don't have to account to these boards. Rightfully and technically, they can't go around and tell people that they're a registered nurse, accountant, or psychologist. Yet how many Christians go around professing to their colleagues that they're Christians, and belonging to so and so church, yet spew vulgarities, smoke, lose temper easily, gossip and harbour hatred.

It's one thing to think wrongful thoughts, to lose our temper or to swear or to indulge in gossips among our colleagues occasionally (and to realise our wrong and repent), but it's another thing to make it our lifestyles and without any guilt or repentance.

As Christians, we're not called to judge our fellow brothers (we leave it to God to do the judgement). But that doesn't mean we can condone their actions and not rebuke them when possible. And I don't think God condones such acts or thoughts. Which is why He said that he rather you be hot or cold, not in between.

What is to be in between? If you're in a debate team, you either belong to the pros or cons team. There's no in between, no impartiality, no buts or maybes. If you see a pregnant lady in a train, you either give up your seat, or don't give up. Waiting for others to give up, or assuming the pregnant lady is ok to stand is to be "in-between" (to bo-chap). You're not taking any actions! You're not doing anything to qualify yourself as a civilised and cultured citizen. The same applies to being a Christian. Oh, so Christians ultimately have only 2 stands to take, hot or cold? To be for God or against Him? Hmm, but it's tough to be a "true" Christian, I heard you muttering. Nobody says its easy. It's not easy to become an accountant or a doctor, or any profession for that matter! You don't call yourself a qualified doctor if you're only half-baked. I would be ashame to call myself a Counsellor if I'm half-baked. I will be doing injustice to my clients! Yet how many half-baked Christians are there out there? No, I'm not saying you can't be half-baked, or that I'm fully-baked. What I'm stressing is the fact that you need to start to choose to get serious with God!

Decide today. Do you really want to be His light and ambassador and shine forth brightly to the world? Luke 11:33 teaches, "No one lights a lamp and puts it in a place where it will be hidden, or under a bowl. Instead he puts it on its stand, so that those who come in may see the light." By being lukewarm, you are hiding your light under a bowl! You do not serve any purpose. If you're dim and covered up under a bowl, then you might as well not light up at all! Your dim light will most probably die off in no time due to lack of oxygen! What good can that be?

Decide today. Do you want to truly be called His beloved and precious and to consciously pursue all matters relating to righteousness, or do you want to belong to the world and indulge in its pleasures and sins? It's a choice - your choice. Life is all about choices, isn't it? The right one, or the wrong. You choose.

Oh, perhaps to aid in your decision, I shall add in this harsh truth, that God will spew you out of His mouth if you're lukewarm. The end times are really near. A new generation of hot Christians must be bred!

By His "hot" servant,
Stephen

Kingdom of God? Can We Have It Here On Earth?

Matthew 13:44-51

44 “The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field.
45 “Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant looking for fine pearls.
46 When he found one of great value, he went away and sold everything he had and bought it.

47 “Once again, the kingdom of heaven is like a net that was let down into the lake and caught all kinds of fish.
48 When it was full, the fishermen pulled it up on the shore. Then they sat down and collected the good fish in baskets, but threw the bad away.

49 This is how it will be at the end of the age. The angels will come and separate the wicked from the righteous
50 and throw them into the blazing furnace, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.

51 “Have you understood all these things?” Jesus asked.
“Yes,” they replied.
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Here is my little sharing once again (I wish I can call it a mini sermon, but till the day I am qualified to call it so). May it blesses you.

Pointer:
v44-45 tell us that
1) Kingdom of heaven is precious and of great value; ("treasure", "fine pearls")
2) It is hidden and one can only find it through active (not passive) searching. ("A man found it", "merchant looking")
3) Once found, it brings joy to its founder; ("...then in his joy went...")
4) People do yearn and want to have the Kingdom of God, above and beyond any measurable materials and wealth. ("sold all he had and bought that field")

v47-48 tell us that
1) Kingdom of God (akin to a net) is available to everyone, including the good and bad; ("caught all kinds of fish")
2) There will come a day when the Kingdom of God (net) will be filled with "fish";
3) The good fish shall be separated from the bad ones;
4) The bad ones will be thrown into hell ("blazing furnace, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth"), while the good ones remain with the chief fisher of man (Jesus).

v51 tell us that
Jesus clarified with his disciples to make sure that they really understand what the Kingdom of God is like.
***Therefore it is very important for us to understand it too!

Are we doing all we can to seek God and His truth? Remember that we have to actively seek it, thus effort is required. You can't just sit around and hope to become enlightened or wiser through His words without putting in any due effort. Yes, indeed God looks at our hearts, but first we must have the heart before our actions match it! Most of us should be familiar with Luke 11:9-10 "So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened." Notice that in this 1 verse alone, many verbs describing actions were used. So it is paramount that one needs to actively seeks, finds, knocks, asks, receives...before the door can be opened.

Many are caught in the rut of complacency and have the mis-concept of "once-saved-forever-saved" belief. I challenge and rebuke this theory (and people who teach such) boldly in the name of our Lord Jesus! Many have and had (present and past tenses) found the Kingdom of God (the net catches all types of people), but they will still be separated from God in the end days if they are deemed "bad". Also, by now you would probably have read my posting regarding God's view on lukewarm Christians, and how He will regard them on His judgement day.

Fellow brethren, seek Him and His righteousness while you still can, and while there's still time. For a time shall come when one seeks, finds, knocks, asks, and the door shall not open anymore.

Matthew 3:2 "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near."

Forever His tiny but powerful fish,
Stephen
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44 天 国 好 像 宝 贝 藏 在 地 里 , 人 遇 见 了 就 把 他 藏 起 来 , 欢 欢 喜 喜 的 去 变 卖 一 切 所 有 的 , 买 这 块 地 。
45 天 国 又 好 像 买 卖 人 寻 找 好 珠 子 ,
46 遇 见 一 颗 重 价 的 珠 子 , 就 去 变 卖 他 一 切 所 有 的 , 买 了 这 颗 珠 子 。
47 天 国 又 好 像 网 撒 在 海 里 , 聚 拢 各 样 水 族 ,
48 网 既 满 了 , 人 就 拉 上 岸 来 , 坐 下 , 拣 好 的 收 在 器 具 里 , 将 不 好 的 丢 弃 了 。
49 世 界 的 末 了 也 要 这 样 。 天 使 要 出 来 , 从 义 人 中 把 恶 人 分 别 出 来 ,
50 丢 在 火 炉 里 ; 在 那 里 必 要 哀 哭 切 齿 了 。
51 耶 稣 说 : 这 一 切 的 话 你 们 都 明 白 了 麽 ? 他 们 说 : 我 们 明 白 了 。

LIFE

What is the origin of life? Are we intricately created or are we a result of an accident, of random atoms banging into each other in the universe? Or did we evolve from apes?

Who decided the 4 seasons in life? Who designed the beautiful colours and patterns of the butterfly? Who controls the revolving of the earth and the strength of the sun? The rising and setting of it too. Who and what determines the cycle of life? Who determines the food cycle, who sets the rule that grass must grows on ground and soil, and that cows eat grass, and that we can eat cows? Who determines that cow must eat grass, and frogs and lizards eat flies, and bacterias break down decaying organisms? Which wise creature designed the water to evaporate as vapours to form clouds, and back to earth again as rain? Who invented snow? Are all these the result of random accident? Or that everything just happens somehow and cows just happen to like grass, that birds happen to be able to fly, that monkeys climb trees, and fishes swim? Is it accidental that our mouths are link to our stomachs, and our stomachs produce specific juices that are strong enough to digest only food, yet not our flesh? Is it just a careless sketch that our waste must pass out through our rectums that so happen to be placed at the bottom end of our intestine? Is it Albert Einstein? Or Mathma Ghandi? Hippocrates, the father of medicine? Or Sigmund Freud, the father of psychology? Or Pablo Picasso, the most famous artist ever? Or Solomon, the wisest man recorded on history, or some contended the title must belong to Confucius, or the highly revered Siddhartha Gautama, who attained enlightenment and became Buddha? Who is it?

Don't you wish to know where you came from? Or who created you? Or are you just a product of Big Bang theory or Apes evolution theories? Who decides your strengths and talents and your weaknesses and flaws? Your previous life determines that? Or perhaps this life affects your life after this? So how much good is good enough for one to become something/somebody better than human in the next life? And how much bad is considered bad enough to be downgraded to a lesser being or animal? Murder? White or just about any coloured lies? Does lustful thoughts alone condemn one to hell, or must it be fornications and adulteries? What if I do 10 good deeds but 1 very bad deed? Or can I do 10 very good deeds to atone for my 1 atrocious deed? How and what should I do to repent and to gain true forgiveness from God(s)?

No, I'm not stirring up any debates nor am I highlighting any specific religion. I've great respect and tolerance for all religions. I'm just pondering now just as you could be wondering too. After all, we don't blindly accept anything thrust to our mouths, right?

How does life 1st come about? Many would agree that there's one thing all of us will ponder some day, be it now or later, but especially during our old age or on our deathbeds. That is life and death, or more specifically "life after death". Granted, most of you probably won't think of it now. And I'm the weird or rare ones out there to be thinking of it so prematurely. What if, just what if...there's really an Almighty God? I'm saying what if? And what if, what if tomorrow is our last day on Earth? What if, what if someone indeed created us, and we know not who is He, nor bother to find out? Most of us know who our earthly parents are. But is there really such a being as a heavenly Father, who created our beautiful earthly parents, and loves them as much too?

What if your life is indeed carefully woven and knitted in your mother's womb? What if a breath has to be breathed into your once lifeless body to make it alive? What if your life is so precious and valuable that it is given a soul that forms our most unique personality and character, that there is no other that is similar to you in this entire world? Even your thumb print is so carefully threaded that there's no single thumb print in this universe that shares your design. Wow! If it's true that there is a God and Creator, then we must be so loved and wonderfully designed! And how wonderful this God must be!

Or maybe there isn't a God who's almighty and wise. All that God-stuffs are man-made and a figment of man's imaginations. Everything on planet Earth and out of it are random. The stars and how the constellations are arranged and fixed throughout ages, the shape of the moon which follows the calendar without fail, the sun that never runs out of heat, the earth that never stops revolving... Now, you and I know these are certainly not random! But hey, since there's no almighty and wise God or Creator, everything just kinda happens!! How and why these came about, nobody knows, and we shouldn'tbe bothered by it. I mean, luck has it that we have day and night, sun and moon, water and clouds. Nature has it that we gradually evolved from apes. And who knows, we might evolve into another creature in future?! How can there be somebody who is so wise to design the homo sapiens and all non and living beings on, beneath, and above the earth? Or maybe, at most somebody designed the apes, and just stop at that, and let the apes evolve into whatever it becomes thereafter?

But still, even if the evolution theory stands true, somebody must design the apes. Or the dinosaurs, or any creature for that matter! Who is it? Who determines that most living creatures must have 2 eyes (why not just 1, after all we can also see with just 1 eye)? Who so decides that all lives are in the blood (for without blood, there's no life)? How then did such blood come about? Who invented blood? All doctors can testify about the intricacies of the blood and DNA. Who is this chief scientist of all scientists, the chief inventor of all inventors? Can any doctor in this world manufacture blood or form a single atom from machines? If so, we can finally do away with blood donation!

Sigh...what if, what if? So many mysteries. Perhaps you are keen to know more about your very existence, the reason why you are created, and who's your creator. Or perhaps I hear you saying "Who cares!? I've only 1 life, so I shall just live it to the fullest and take in whatever this world has to offer. After life or not, what will be will be, que sara sara."

Whatever...it's your life.

From yours truly and His only,
Stephen

恩典之路 - Streams of Praise

當你走到無力

Hebrews 13:5
...because God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you."

Matthew 28:20
"...And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

Thailand's Got Talent - Bell Nuntrita



Just like what the judge said, "It's impossible!" A transvestite who sang so well in both woman and man's voice. I just feel like telling you, "It's God who gives you this talent. Even though your earthly father rejects you, He loves you dearly, regardless of who you become now". Transvestites and homosexuals can also shine for God!

So You Would Come - Hillsongs

John 3:16
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

Favourite Verses

James 4:2-3
You desire and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You fight and war. You do not have because you do not ask. You ask and don't receive because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your evil desires.


Jeremiah 33:3
Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.


James 4:8
"Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, sinners, and purify your hearts, double-minded people!"


Mat 5:43-46
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that?


1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
"Rejoice evermore. Pray without ceasing. In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you"


Psalm 17:6
I call on You, God, because You will answer me.


Proverbs 21:19
Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.


Mark 5:36
Overhearing what they said, Jesus told him, “Don’t be afraid; just believe.”


Jeremiah 17:7-8
“But blessed is the one who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.”


Hebrews 13:5
Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you."


Matt 10:28
And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in hell.


1 John 4:4
You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.


Matthew 28:20
"...And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”


Matthew 11:28-30
Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”


Titus 2:7-8
In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us.


Colossians 3:2
Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth.

Vic Chou

http://sg.news.yahoo.com/vic-chou-depression-065400453.html

Vic's emotional burden accumulated over the years, resulting in depression a few years ago.

"I was immune to pain and was unafraid of death, during the worst period when I had depression. Death became optional. In other words, I would die, if I wanted to die today," he let on.

Chae Dong-ha

http://sg.news.yahoo.com/ex-sg-wannabes-dong-hwa-suicides-185200175.html

Be on guard always of the darkest cloud of Depression. It can happen to anyone - rich or poor, young or old, good-looking or otherwise. If not treated or managed, it can lead to suicide. That jovial colleague beside you may be its next victim.

Prayer and faith in God is the most effective way. Faith in people and this world are the least. It is more spiritually-rooted than biological and psychological. I know, cos I had been there...

Shine Like Stars - True Worshippers


Look at the world we live today
Look at the hurting everywhere
Let us see mercy and your grace
overflowed in every place
Let us be one with you today
And let your glory fall....

Teach us to live in rigteoness
Teach us to love in one accord
Guide us to live life everyday
As we worship in your cort
Let us declare your majesty
And let your glori fall.....

Chorus:
We will shine
Shine like star above
Shining in your light
Guided by your love

Let your fire burn in us
Burning like the sun
As we glorify
And show your kingdom come
In all the Earth

We will shine like star above
As we're burning like the sun

10 lessons learnt about Life...and God.

Throughout my fluctuations in my faith and my disobedience to God, my ups and downs, my faithfulness and faithlessness, I've learnt that:

1) God is still God, whether we acknowledge Him or not.

2) God has never left or forsake us. It's we who choose to leave God.

3) God still blesses us abundantly, but it's the Devil who snatches them away through our sinful acts.

4) We reap what we sow. Everything has a cause and effect (consequence), God can overlook the cause if we ask for forgiveness, but we can never ignore the effect (e.g. infidelity resulting in divorce). We can only accept it humbly and seek repentance, and pray that we will not repeat them.

5) Everything happens for some reasons (more often than not it's good), for God has good plans for us. We may not understand it now, but we will in time to come.

6) Everything happens 1st in our mind (and we can submit our mind either to God or devil) before manifesting into actions.

7) God is the same God when He 1st created the world, when He was on earth, now, tomorrow, and after Armageddon.

8) Bible says that the love of money (and hence all greed) is the bottomest root of all evil. If we open our eyes wide when we read the newspaper and around us, we know that is indeed very true.

9) Bible says that having a good wife (or partner, bf/gf, whatever you call it, but only serious relationship of course, not flings or 10 nights stand -_-) is a good thing. If God says it's good, it's REALLY good (and don't you ever believe the devil when he says it's good. Remember what he told Eve about the apples? They're "good"...really "good"). Therefore conversely, having a bad wife (or whatever you call it) is REALLY bad. So choose wisely. This earth could be your sparkling heaven, or fiery hell, figuratively of course.

10) It's easier to preach than to eat your peach! Er...I mean, it's easier to talk the talk than to walk the walk.

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:) Yours *whatever,
Stephen

You Are My Father (Acoustic Demo) by True Worshippers



Verse 1:
It doesn't matter where I run, You're there for me
It doesn't matter what I've done Your love's for me
You wipe away the tears, You lift me when I fall
My life is safe by the mercy of Your grace

Verse 2:
It doesn't matter where I go, You walk with me
It doesn't matter when I fall, You cover me
You wipe away the tears, You lift me when I fall
My life is safe by the mercy of Your grace

Chorus:
You are my Father, Provider
You're my Deliverer
Your mercies embrace me, surround me
Through Your everlasting love
Father I worship You
Father I worship You

And Your love is for me
And Your love is for me
And Your love is forever

God's Beauty Tips

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.

For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others.

To lose weight, let go of stress, hatred, anger, discontentment, and the need to control others.

To improve your ears, listen to the Word of God.

For poise, walk with knowledge and self-esteem.

To strengthen your arms, hug at least three people a day; touch someone with your love.

To strengthen your heart, forgive yourself and others.

For the ultimate in business, casual or evening attire, put on the robe of Christ; it fits like a glove, but allows room for growth. Best of all, it never goes out of style and is appropriate for any occasion.

Doing these things on a daily basis will certainly make you a more beautiful person.

~Author Unknown
Dedicated to those who are down and discouraged...with man there's a lot of impossibles, but try partnering with God, and you're tapping into the supernatural where nothing is impossible!

Thursday, May 12, 2011

Be still and know that I am God



Psalm 46:10
Be still and know that I am God.

What does it mean when God taught us to be still and know that He is God. Don't we already know that He is God? So if knowing God is not an issue, then it must be keeping still that is. Or could knowing God be the key issue?

When you are down to your penny, when your debtors are chasing you for payments, when you have just lost your job, when your boss is shouting for a fault that's not yours, when your children are sick and crying non-stop in the middle of the night, when your close friend betrays you, when the doctor told you that you've cancer...

Can you be still, and know that He is God?

Meditate on the verse again, and may His rhema falls upon you. Psalm 46:10 "Be still and know that I am God." When you know that God is control, when you know that He was and is beside you when you lost your loved ones, when you lost your job, when your baby was in hospital, when you're suffering from depression or feeling suicidal, when you feel that nobody can help except...

...God.

"Be still and know that I am God."

You see, God wants you to know that He is God. He is not a mortal Mr Super-hero or Mr Idol or Mr Mega-star. He is not your earthly loving father, nor your generous boss, nor your caring best friend. Neither is He an up-and-coming candidate running for US Presidency.

HE IS GOD!

Now when you know that He is God, you will be still. And when you are still, you will realise that He's really God. God is God! Period.

"Be still and know that I am God."

When you are anxious and worried and panicky, can you be still? So why are you anxious and why do you worry and panic when you know that God is God? And that this God who is God is with you and for you, and that He will never leave you nor forsake you?

Peter and the other 11 disciples doubted Jesus and thought He was a ghost when they saw Him walking on water. Peter thus shouted to Jesus, "If you are Jesus, command me to walk on water!". Jesus replied, "Ok, come. And you tell me if I am Jesus or a ghost." Thank God that Peter had greater faith than the other disciples and did the impossible by trusting Jesus (note that at that point Peter wasn't really sure if He's indeed who He claimed Himself to be, or is He really a ghost). Unlike Doubting Thomas, Peter trusted with a child-like faith, and immediately his heart was stilled (and I'm sure the rest of the disciples too). Until..., well you know the rest of the story.

Doubting Thomas was not still when he doubted Jesus when the rest of disciples told him that they saw Jesus. He was stilled only when Jesus said "Ok, come, feel my hands and sides. And you tell me if I am Jesus or otherwise (most probably a familiar spirit)." No points for guessing correctly that Thomas was stilled when he fell upon the feet of Jesus.

"Be still and know that I am God."

When you doubt, you are not still. When you are not still, it's hard for you to know that He is God, even if He appears in front of you. So my brethren, "Be still and know that I am God."

Thank you, Jesus for using me to share your truth. Glory be unto you!

Yours-in-Christ,
Stephen

Joel Osteen - Be Quick to Give God the Credit

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